The Surprising Truth About Feeling Good (And How to Access It Now)

When you really boil it down, we’re all after the same thing:
To feel good.

But how to feel good? That’s where things can start to feel complicated.

We’re taught that feeling good comes from changing our circumstances — lose the weight, look younger, land the perfect job, find the ideal partner. And sure, those things can bring a hit of good feelings.
Until they don’t.
Until the shine wears off.
Until it just becomes... normal.

Then we’re back on the hunt for the next thing to make us feel good. And even when we have what we wanted, there’s that low-level fear: what if I lose it?

Why Feeling Good Isn’t About What You Achieve

What I’ve come to discover — and it took hearing this many times before it really clicked — is that feeling good is a feeling.
And feelings? They happen inside of us. Which means we have the power to feel good right now, in any moment.

This might not feel true if you’ve been conditioned to believe that happiness only comes once things look a certain way on the outside — your body, your career, your relationship, your social status.
(And yes, even who holds political power.)

But here’s the thing: external circumstances will never consistently align with our preferences. There will always be something our mind wants to tweak, fix, or control.

When we tie our sense of well-being to a body shape or a world we can’t fully control, we suffer.
And suffering, as I define it, is simply: anything that doesn’t feel good — stress, anxiety, discontent, sadness.

The Role of “Negative” Emotions

That doesn’t mean we’re supposed to avoid those feelings.
On the contrary — trying to avoid discomfort creates a whole other layer of suffering.

When we allow those emotions, they can help us. They guide us, show us where we’re out of alignment, and point us toward what we do want.

And ultimately, everything we want comes down to this:
We want it because we think it will make us feel better.

So why wait?

You Can Feel Better Now

You can begin feeling better by simply noticing how you want to feel — and then inviting that feeling in.

If I want to feel calm, I ask myself:
What would calm feel like in my body right now?

If I want to feel safe, I explore:
What would safety feel like?

You can even support this shift by focusing on what’s already working — what you can be grateful for, however small.
I’m grateful I get to type these words to you.
That I have a keyboard, a computer, and internet to send this message.
That you are here, reading this.

Feeling Better is a Habit — And It’s One You Can Build

Our emotional state is largely a habit.
We tend to think the same thoughts over and over again (research shows up to 90% of our thoughts are recycled daily).
And those thoughts shape how we feel.

So instead of waiting for life to deliver the “perfect” moment or the “perfect” body, we can develop the habit of tuning inward — of choosing our focus and gently shifting how we feel.

A Common Misconception About Feeling Good

One belief that often gets in the way?
That feeling good means we’ll stop caring about our body, or others.

But the opposite is true.

When we feel good, we have more energy to give.
We naturally want our bodies to feel their best.
We have more capacity to show up, to advocate, to connect, to serve.

I reached a point where I was just done feeling bad — even the “normal” kinds of bad like stress and worry.
And I realized: I didn’t have to live like that anymore.
I had the power to shift my internal state. It just takes practice.

You Have That Power Too

If you’re ready to take your power back — to feel more peace, more ease, more aliveness — know that you can start right now.
You don’t need to wait.
You just need to begin where you are.

Want Support on Your Journey?
I’ve created two free resources to help you build this inner foundation:

🌿 The Guide to Body Acceptance — Learn how to begin making peace with your body so you can stop obsessing and start living.

🧘‍♀️ Free Weekly Meditations — Simple, 10-minute meditations to help you connect to your inner calm and remember your worth — just as you are.

Wherever you are on this path, I’m so glad you’re here.